Family Heaven Family Hell

How To Survive The Family Get-Together

About the Book

Family gatherings are supposed to be happy occasions, full of love and warmth, but the reality is too often more like a nightmare. In Family Heaven, Family Hell I explore the dynamics of what happens when family members get together – the patterns that get repeated time and time again, the arguments that have been going on since time began (and before), and the expectations, resentments and disappointments that get played out.

Helping the reader to identify their own roles in their family and how they continue to be perpetuated, I show how to understand your family dynamics. I give the reader practical advice including techniques on changing patterns and setting boundaries to begin to shift what happens when families get together. I also explore when the right option is to gracefully bow out.

Filled with case studies, quizzes and challenges, this is an essential book for anyone wanting to improve their family relations.

Not only that, the book is written with humour, compassion and insight so that you, the reader, should never feel pressured, criticised or ashamed about what happens at your family gatherings or how you feel about it all.

The book encourages you to try out some of the exercises but allows you to go at your own pace - what you can handle along the way.

It's a universal that even in the worst families, there is a secret hope that it will all get better. Sometimes it just can't and won't, and I also guide the reader on walking away, if that is the only option left.

More often than not, however, better communication is possible, and even resolving old disputes and feuds is a possibility as well.

It may not give miraculous results, but this book may very well help to turn your hellish family get-togethers into something far more heavenly.

Have a peek at the introduction: